How to Command Respect

How to Command Respect

From yourself and then others

This is exclusively for the man or young fella whom desires to level up their life & transform into a MAN OF GREAT RESPECT.

It starts with you.

There’s no faking it. There’s no demanding people roll out a red carpet for you. That leads to narcissism.

But there absolutely is a practical real authentic way to change how you carry yourself due to some intentional efforts and habits.

You will then project RESPECT and exude an air of confidence that will attract a new more noble treatment from others, especially WOMEN.

Walk with self-worth. Shoulders back. Never hunch.

In fat, slow down.

A man of great RESPECT is not hurried, pushy, fidgety or otherwise in a rush. He moves more methodically, unfazed by the environment and other people. Walk a bit slower if you tend to move fast. Think before you speak. Process things a bit.

1. DRESS LIKE THE MAN YOU WANT PEOPLE TO BE IMPRESSED BY

If you are actually serious about RESPECT, Lose the baggy, gothic & otherwise extreme attire and clothing. It comes off as immature, bizarre and childish actually. If you just want another baggy lazy looking goth young girl, then it will work to continue it. Level up.

The son of a woman I was seeing was maybe age 16-18 or so and consistently dressed like a slacker- long, hot pants and sweaters in the summer, dark morbid colors always. He talked a big game but yet he appeared so baggy and poorly dressed. Sadly, there were deep reasons why he thought the way he did, outside of himself. Successful men are repelled by this and high class women flee immediately.  Do you seriously think dressing like a slob commands respect the way well dressed men do it?  Don't make me laugh.

I distinctly remember observing folks in court for various tickets as a young man after I was caught for speed numerous times. Something told me to dress sharp and at least try and win some FAVOR for my cause to be shown mercy. Most people there looked like they slept in their clothes. Even then, as a clueless 19 year old kid, I knew that was a really poor life choice.

Whatever it takes, level up your appearance; DRESS is a huge part of this. You do not need to go over the top to accomplish this feat.

In case of an interview, a business meeting or chance to become mentored, you will need this item:  a SUIT.  So go buy one today.  It can even be $150, can be from Belk at the mall or Target. The colorful tie can be what makes it appear really nice.

2. FIND PEACE

A man of WAR should be peaceful.

So find a way to overcome the anger or aggression in order to find peace and harmony with other men and everyone else after that.

Every family man, every seasoned man, and even veterans who have seen violence in combat, have made it clear at times how they just want PEACE. The reason peace is being mentioned here is because if you show me a man who is out of control with others, I will show you a man who does not truly command real respect.  He instills fear and instability.

3. REDIRECT THE DANGER

A MAN SHOULD be Dangerous.

Capable of great harm. Trained, strong. Ready. Confident to stop threats. Never creating them.

Speaking of aggression, next is to PROPERLY HARNESS THE DANGEROUS MAN.

Prisons are filled with guys who lacked the wisdom or self-control or work ethic to overcome the urge to instinctively fight and make war on others. Many of them are there for that exact reason and it’s costing some of them their destinies forever (long sentences for violent crime or murder).

It serves no one to be capable of danger and causing danger to people everywhere you go. It's called being an out of control reckless criminal. It will bite you and can cost you your life.

But being capable of danger and learning how to harness such strength and ability is what makes a man a good man, not a nice guy or bad man.

4. DON’T BE SELLING

NEVER EVER BEG FOR SOMEONE TO AGREE WITH YOU

NEVER EVER SELL A POINT OR BOUNDARY YOU MUST DECLARE.

Just say it. Then stand.

Discern where someone is when debating or conversing about points or ideas with you.

Do not beg or SIMP as it’s called nowadays.

For example: if your girl or your mother or a buddy are arguing a point, allow them to finish their points. Formulate honest and well thought out ideas, but stop competing for them to hear you or agree with you. It’s weak, needy & it is begging.

Be calm & patient and if you tend to be on the side of truth for the most part as a person, let that speak for itself.

Being ancy, anxious or combative actually shows a lack of true power and superiority that you probably would prefer to carry.

..Much more on these ideas in the Man of Valor membership (Manofvalorus.com)

5. INTENTIONAL DATE PLANNING & Details.

Create a plan for dates. Winging it shows clear laziness and communicates fear to lead and be a romancing man of respect. It’s cheap and devalues the first opportunity for a good first impression.

Most women have decision fatigue, and God designed man to serve woman by carrying some of those decisions. Devise a light-hearted and classy first date out that allows her to relax and freely get to know if she sees good potential in you as a mate.

And for God’s sake, classy doesn’t mean to buy or rent a tux, two dozen flowers and spend $300. That’s neither actually a wise move or relaxing for her. You just set the bar so astronomically high, you won't reach it easily ever again. (SECRET:  we believe in testing your girl by seeing as soon as possible how her attitude is affected by simplicity, by humble outings.  Is she there for trinkets or there to know you because she authentically likes you? This can only be discovered by real life environments to test that sincerity.

Think mini golf, a park in the summer,

Don’t set the bar too high.

Also is important is to intentionally study your closest loved ones and their preferences. My woman just reminded me today that she appreciates the NOTICE of buying her favorite type mug without being told.

To see where she could use an assist for example. Some form of service to her that sets you apart.  Detail her car (I have this skill and do it for her)

6. CONFIDENT, NOT ARROGANT

Have or develop a genuine CONFIDENCE in your personal value. By applying the above, you’re already well on your way, and likely ahead of many others at this point.

The best way to develop SELF-CONFIDENCE is to actually grow personally, from the inside out, to genuinely be improving always. Character is the key to feeling confident. It’s awfully hard to convince yourself and then others that you are a confident Man when you have awful character, see?

Arrogance is defined as a condescending & competitive cockiness.

You’re always right.

Others are beneath you.

You have to win each argument.

You are forceful and lack INFLUENCE & LEADERSHIP.

This has been sold to us men as a strength.

This is dead wrong. It’s actually a real weakness.

So, instead develop Confidence in yourself and do it humbly.  (NOTE: Please go reference the HIGH VALUE MAN BLOG POST for more depth here)

These are some time tested principles anyone, anywhere can use to live a more RESPECTED life.

be a RESPECTABLE Man of Valor,

Brad Bennett,

Founder